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LaShawn Splane-Wilburn
- May 27, 2016
- 5 min
You Are A Caregiver…Too
The value of identity of course is that so often with it comes purpose. - Richard Grant In addition to being a husband, wife, mother, father, sister, brother, cousin, aunt, uncle, or friend we are caregivers. Caregiver is not our only identity. We are a caregiver "too". If we are not careful we may find ourselves becoming an extension of our loved ones, our every focus on keeping the environment in ourselves in perfect synchronicity in an effort to reduce the amount of stress
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La Shawn Splane-Wilburn, Family Caregiver
- May 23, 2016
- 5 min
CAREGIVER TOOL KIT: Self Care - An Investment In Your Quality Of Life
"When you make a commitment to a relationship, you invest your attention and energy in it more profoundly because you now experience ownership of that relationship." - Barbara de Angelis In the beginning stages of my journey as a Mental Health Family Caregiver I could not see past what my daily duties were as I was immersed in the care demands of my son, the stress and pressures of learning, and adjusting to my new role as caregiver in addition to wife, mother, grandmother an
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La Shawn Splane-Wilburn
- May 20, 2016
- 3 min
CAREGIVER TOOL KIT: Taking Control of Your Peace
“You cannot find peace by avoiding life.”
― Virginia Woolf You never really know how much control you have over your peace until you commit to focusing on and drawing more peace to you. I have learned to manage my mental health and design my life. I’ve learned so much and some of it was really life changing while some of it I still work hard to master. I’m not a dietician so please know all that I share with you is what I’ve learned during my research and what has worked f
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La Shawn Splane-Wilburn
- May 16, 2016
- 8 min
SELF CARE - Caregiver Burn-Out & Depression
“I don't want to live in the kind of world where we don't look out for each other. Not just the people that are close to us, but anybody who needs a helping hand. I cant change the way anybody else thinks, or what they choose to do, but I can do my bit.”
― Charles de Lint May is the month for Mental Health Awareness and a good time to discuss the mental health of the caregivers who support and care for loved ones with Mental Health Disorders. When I talk to people, whether
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La Shawn Splane-Wilburn
- May 9, 2016
- 3 min
Do You Trust Your Caregiver Instinct?
"Don't you dare underestimate the power of your own instinct." - Barbara Corcoran What is Instinct any way? According to Webster’s Dictionary, “a way of behaving, thinking, or feeling that is not learned : a natural desire or tendency that makes you want to act in a particular way”. So when we as caregivers have that nagging sense that something is just not right about our loved one we are more often correct than not. I have talked with other Mental Health Caregivers who have
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La Shawn Splane-Wilburn, Family Caregiver
- Apr 25, 2016
- 4 min
GO ANYWAY – SELF CARE IS FORCED UNTIL YOU UNDERSTAND ITS VALUE
Photo Credit: DetroitFreePress.com/walkingman "You will enrich your life immeasurably if you approach it with a sense of wonder and discovery, and always challenge yourself to try new things." - Nate Berkus I know right just what we need another “self-care” admonition when we barely have enough time to think straight, if only we had as much time as we are told we do. At one time I felt the same way, I became combative when people suggested that I could take time for myself, e
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La Shawn Splane-Wilburn
- Apr 6, 2016
- 7 min
Caregiver Tool Kit: Balancing Independence With Needs – Being The Best Support While Respecting Our
Image Credit: Vewdo.com Letting go helps us to to live in a more peaceful state of mind and helps restore our balance. It allows others to be responsible for themselves and for us to take our hands off situations that do not belong to us. This frees us from unnecessary stress. - Melody Beattie There is not a more fragile relationship than that of a Mental Health Family Caregiver and an Adult Child recovering from, learning to manage, and living with a mental health disorder.
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La Shawn Splane-Wilburn
- Feb 1, 2016
- 7 min
MENTAL HEALTH FAMILY CAREGIVING: Being Realistic About Your Journey & Your Goals
I've learned over the years that people are human and have mood swings, regardless of how talented they are. Today, I'm looking at life from a realistic point of view instead of the way I would want things to be. - Otis Williams Sometimes imagining a life filled with “easy days”, plenty of financial bliss, and waking up on a tropical island takes the sting of reality away. I have sat on the shore and stared off into the open ocean and imagined myself lying out on the deck of
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La Shawn Wilburn - Family Caregiver & Founder of
- Jan 8, 2016
- 5 min
3 QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF TO TAKE YOUR CAREGIVING JOURNEY FROM STRUGGLE TO STRIVING
"If there is no struggle, there is no progress." - Frederick Douglass How often do you place your feet on the floor in the morning and think, “I can’t wait to get this day started! I’m going to knock the wind out of adversity today!” Yeah me neither at least not at first. My first words out of my mouth and thoughts are “thank you Lord for waking me up and for watching over my family as we slept that no harm came to us.” I’ll talk to you about that more in a bit. My initial th
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La Shawn Wilburn - Family Caregiver & Founder
- Jan 4, 2016
- 5 min
WHERE AM I GOING TO FIND THE TIME FOR THAT? - WHEN SELF CARE IS A FOUR-LETTER WORD!
How did it get so late so soon? Its night before its afternoon. December is here before its June. My goodness how the time has flewn. How did it get so late so soon? -Dr. Seuss What do you think is the number one question I get when I ask a Family Caregiver about their Self Care? Correct, "Where am I going to get the time for that?" I don't care what the diagnosis is for a loved one "time" is the concern for all Family Caregivers. I understand how important time is because I
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